Wednesday, April 15, 2009

The Great "Expectations"

Just to be clear, this post has nothing to do with Mr. Dickens novel. The idea here is only to emphasize the greatness of the "Expectations" phenomenon. Why do I refer to it as a phenomenon, well because it amazes you how even after numerous let downs one can still stand expecting the same!

A huge chunk of disappointments that one experiences in life results from expectations. It's a very basic human nature to expect a lot from people-close-to-us. "People-close-to-us" is a distinct group consisting of a considerable number of people according to our assumptions but that's rarely the case. At numerous occasion in life you come to realize this fact and you start getting the actual picture of that group. But for this you have to be alert to the signals being delivered or else the disappointments never end.

After the first two posts on a very positive note you might not have been expecting such stuff. Well that's again the beauty of expectations, they always surprise you! The point is not to scare you away from them, but to stay close to the reality. Expect more from yourself then from others. You'll then know for sure what to expect and even if things don't turn out the way you want them to, you'll know what went wrong and how can that be amended. The more you believe in yourself, higher your expectations will be. And the chances are, you won't be disappointed.

I know this post again has turned out like some sort of a lecture, and some people don't like hearing those from me, but am not trying to live up to anyone's expectations. Am doing this for myself. I expect myself to deliver some good stuff, and here I am testing just that. Sharing my thoughts with anyone who gives a crap.

51 comments:

  1. nice post dude.
    just reminded me of a saying by Hazrat Ali: its not the people who disappoint you; its your expectations from those people.

    by the way, i hope it wasn't anyone from the gang that has disappointed you :P

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  2. but it was too short. And the writing seems very confident this time, keep posting more..........

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  3. @Farhan: thanx dude ! .. well i didn't wanted to point out anyone. But the fact is almost everyone has done so at some point in time ... but i guess the magnitude has never been too high :)

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  4. @m: thanxxx !! And the reason am keeping it short is cuz ppl get scared of the long ones and don't usually read em .. i had a few more pointers but i thought i ll post them later !

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  5. Its so true. Every word. Couldn't have agreed more. Expectations from others get you nowhere but only to a disappointing point somewhere in life when you probably needed the best and the most from the expected. But expectations from your own self not only keeps you moving with ambition, vision and strength - it also makes you a successful & confident person. Last but not the least, gives you lesser painful experiences in life.
    So "umeed kisi se baandhne k bajye, apni umeedoun ko baandh ker kaheen rekh do, bulkey as per bilal khud se hi baand lo" Hmm... makes sense?! God! im already on the road to become a writer and beat u on blog writing :P dero dero mut kero inspire mujhe paleeezzzz

    And silly boy, you think this isn't positive like the previous?! :O kia kehne ap k newly discovered optimism k :)

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  6. @m: Quite rightly put ! And if this is a little preview of how ur blog is gonna be , i would love to follow it :)

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    wa Salam,
    Sister in Islam

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