Wednesday, April 15, 2009

The Great "Expectations"

Just to be clear, this post has nothing to do with Mr. Dickens novel. The idea here is only to emphasize the greatness of the "Expectations" phenomenon. Why do I refer to it as a phenomenon, well because it amazes you how even after numerous let downs one can still stand expecting the same!

A huge chunk of disappointments that one experiences in life results from expectations. It's a very basic human nature to expect a lot from people-close-to-us. "People-close-to-us" is a distinct group consisting of a considerable number of people according to our assumptions but that's rarely the case. At numerous occasion in life you come to realize this fact and you start getting the actual picture of that group. But for this you have to be alert to the signals being delivered or else the disappointments never end.

After the first two posts on a very positive note you might not have been expecting such stuff. Well that's again the beauty of expectations, they always surprise you! The point is not to scare you away from them, but to stay close to the reality. Expect more from yourself then from others. You'll then know for sure what to expect and even if things don't turn out the way you want them to, you'll know what went wrong and how can that be amended. The more you believe in yourself, higher your expectations will be. And the chances are, you won't be disappointed.

I know this post again has turned out like some sort of a lecture, and some people don't like hearing those from me, but am not trying to live up to anyone's expectations. Am doing this for myself. I expect myself to deliver some good stuff, and here I am testing just that. Sharing my thoughts with anyone who gives a crap.

Monday, March 9, 2009

Hope !

As mentioned in The Prologue, this blog is about my weird thoughts and theories, so today it's gonna be my take on a very special thing called HOPE !!

So why HOPE ?? Well again the credit goes to one of my friends for whom this word has kinda lost its meaning which is quite something for me to absorb cuz the same person gave me a good dosage of hope when life was giving me a tough time. I may not have gone through any major turmoil but there were times when i felt all alone and helpless and all i had to hold on to, was hope. Hope that these times will be over soon. Hope that things will be back to how they were. Hope that whatever is happening is for some greater good and all i have to do is be strong and keep my faith alive.

Life is a blessing, and whether or not you are appreciative of that is what ur gonna be test for. It doesn't matter whether you have been good or bad all ur life, be very sure that testing times will come. How strong you are in those times will determine how you will be rewarded. I learned to thank God in even the roughest of times cuz I learned to appreciate how blessed I am. I learned to seek the positives in the most difficult of times. I learned to smile at my troubles. I did all this cuz I had the power of hope behind me. And this hope came from belief. Belief that nothing in this world is impossible if you have the determination to achieve it. Belief that the dawn always comes after the night is the darkest. Belief in myself and above all belief in Allah!

Hope is that ray of light in a dark tunnel, which encourages you to keep moving towards it. It is that strength which makes you go the distance to achieve the unachievable. It is that friend who lifts you up when the rest of the world is pushing you down. Would you give up on that? If you would really hold on to it, you will never see the face of defeat because you chose not to. But if you give up, you just don't give up on yourself but also on the hopes of your loved ones who care for you, who'd like to share the joy of your success and love to see a smile on your face.

All this may sound absurd to people who are passing through a difficult phase of life cuz am being very optimistic over here. I haven't been the same my whole life, so I can understand how difficult it is to absorb. But take my word, once you do understand, start believing in yourself and break those barriers that have been holding you back, you'll feel a whole new life into you, a whole new purpose to live for and a whole new hope for a brighter tomorrow!

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Rise in Love !

Before I start ranting about my theory of LOVE, I would like to give a special thanks to my dear friend JDee for his latest post (Words of Wisdom), which led me to this!

Here is the prelude:

Words Of Wisdom

Never fall in love. If it doesn’t work out, the pain is unbearable.

This is an actual conversation.

Me: Hmmm, how is life?
Him: Life .... is boring, dull, colorless, shit and cold.
Me: Sorry, I asked!

Even more so: Never ever fall in love with a friend. If that doesn’t work out, you a left with a broken heart and one less shoulder to cry on.

Just a couple of bits from JDèé’s words of wisdom.

"Never Fall in love" ... that's what raised an eyebrow. It's not that I had a lot of success in the matters of love but one thing I can say for sure is that I never have or would ever regret any of the moment spent loving someone. Do you get the same love in return is never certain. But that should never be a question in the first place. If you love someone expecting to be loved back, then that's not love cuz Love, my friend, is unconditional!

What you feel when in love cannot be described in words and only those who've experienced it can understand. That's what usually people would say and to some extent they are correct cuz it's definitely not easy to put to words how you feel about someone, but let me try and make an attempt.

I feel Love is when you wanna be with someone, every minute of the day. Listen to them for hours without missing on a single word they say. Or may be just sit right in front of them watching them without even a blink of an eye. Hold them and say that you will always be there for them no matter what. When they are hurt, you are right there giving your shoulder to cry on. And there is nothing more painful than seeing a tear in their eyes. Be their best friend, be their companion, the one they can trust, the one they can rely on, the one who'll always stick by in tides low or high. You simply love them for who they are. If you care for someone in your life like that there is no way you could ever lose them. They acquire a very special place in your heart and it doesn't matter how far you are from them you just can't stop loving them. You are not hurt when you part, but if it makes them happy there is nothing in the world you could want more. Their happiness mean everything in your life and you value it far above your own self. If a tear in your eye can bring a smile on their face you would cry a river for them. That's what love is as I see it!

It would be wrong to say that I never fall in love, cuz I did. But I learnt something out of it, I learned to "Rise in Love" !!

Saturday, November 1, 2008

The Prologue

Let's start with some facts. This is not the first time am starting to write something. I've given it a shot a couple of times earlier, but only after 10 or so minutes I would read it back again and say to myself "What the hell is that ! I could have done much better things with that time" (You know ;)). So, this time I'll try not to read it again and let you all, and by all I mean those few unlucky friends of mine whom I have forced to read this blog, decide how bad a decision was this.

Talking of BLOGS, a term which has kinda become a fad, what are these? Why are people so fascinated about them? I mean, why does one writes a blog? I never thought that I would be writing one, yet here I am scribbling away and asking myself the same question.
It's a Saturday afternoon, a time when am usually watching a movie or just killing time browsing through the cable. But today I decided to bring blogging into my life. I decided to torture my friends with my weird thoughts and "Theories" (Let's talk about it later) that would most of the time not make sense but I would just love for them to experience a little part of my perplexed world.

I most certainly didn't plan for this like I never do for most of the stuff. So don't be expecting a lot to read around here. I'll be here to give you people some food for thought (ya right!), when am tired being lazy. What it would be like? Let's just keep it a surprise for now !